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Praying for Lost People as a Group

As you have been reading in this series of blog posts about prayer, we have learned the following:

  1. Our work begins with prayer, not with our own motivations.
  2. Pray for lost people by name.
  3. Pray for lost people daily.

Today we want to look at how your small group can gather to pray together for lost friends and lost people.

Often, if our group does pray together at group meetings for lost friends, the group often fails to make an actual list of lost people for whom the group is praying. This makes the group’s effort at praying for lost people a “hit or miss” activity. What if Stacy isn’t in the group meeting to bring up his lost friend Walter? What if Mike forgets that last time he asked the group to pray for James?

5 Reasons a Small Group Should Keep an Ongoing List

a. An ongoing list of lost people for the group to pray for will help the group avoid “one and done” prayers. A lost person’s name will appear on the list and the group can continue to pray for the salvation of Walter and James, even if the people who originally put their names on the list are not present.

b. A list can be duplicated. A simple list of 15 lost people that the small group is praying for can be copied and shared with the entire group.

c. A list turns the prayer for lost friends, family, and neighbors into a group concern, not just an individual member’s concern.

d. If the prayers of one saint are strong, the prayers of many saints will be even stronger.

e. The spiritual connection between group members increases dramatically when the each group member is spiritually burdened to pray not only for his or her lost friends, but also the lost friends of other group members.

Some Suggestions to Improve Group Prayer Time for the Lost

Set aside a specific Sunday of the month as THE Sunday the group will intercede for the salvation of lost people. (Yes, pray for the lost every Sunday, but a specific Sunday will stress the importance evangelistic intercession).

Pray evangelistic Scriptures. Some examples: John 3:16, Romans 10:9-10, 1 Timothy 1:15, Isaiah 6:8, Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 6:23, Luke 8:11-15.

Ask for updates. Perhaps Stacy while having coffee with his friend Walter, Stacy was able to have a gospel conversation.

Invite lost friends into your small group. To many lost people, Christianity seems very unusual, even a little weird. What better way for a lost person to learn about Christ than in a community of His followers.

Adopt a People Group. According to the International Mission Board, there are almost 7,000 people groups worldwide who have yet to hear the gospel. Adopt one of these groups and pray for missionaries to be sent to the group; for the group to have the Bible translated into their own language; and for the Holy Spirit to work in advance to soften the hearts and minds of leaders who are in the people group, so that they can hear and comprehend the gospel message.

Bob Mayfield is the Personal Evangelism and Small Groups ministry partner for Oklahoma Baptists.

Maintaining Spiritual Connection While Keeping Social Distance

The Corona Virus (COVID-19) is bringing changes to our society in the United States, as well as the entire world. During this time, the government’s plan to limit the spread of the virus is impacting the corporate activities of many churches.

Virtually every American is impacted by the Corona virus. Both the churched and unchurched alike have a need to be connected to society, but because of the need for social distancing many find themselves disconnected from family, friends, and neighbors at a time when their need for community is great.

Small groups in the local church can play an active role in ministering to both the churched and unchurched. Below are some simple steps a church can take to engage its small groups to provide a spiritual connection that many people will need in the weeks ahead.

For churches…                                                                         

Use existing social media or website platforms to offer online public worship services. Limitations on worship service attendance is still in flux, but it is best to expect that the opportunity to meet corporately for many churches will be limited.

Small groups can meet online through free or inexpensive teleconferencing such as Zoom video. Video conferencing will generally work better for small groups because participants can interact directly through video and chat features. Video conferencing is excellent for conducting group Bible study because of the ability each person has to interact, read Scripture, pray, and share ministry.

Use apps such as GroupMe to maintain contact with group members each day. Groups can use this app to share prayer needs, ministry opportunities, and stay connected throughout the day without the need for scheduled meetings.

For Small Group Leaders

Utilize online Bible studies that support LifeWay’s Explore the Bible and Bible Studies for Life curriculums. Zoom Video Conferencing can be used for group interaction or for small group leaders that want to lead Bible studies with their group.

Establish a digital means to maintain contact with every person in your small group. Suggestions include both video conferencing like Zoom, and social media apps like GroupMe. If necessary, maintain contact through telephone and/or text. Your church leaders may have suggestions or preferences of which social media platforms they prefer you to use.

Be proactive to inform your group of how you will stay in contact with them. Establish the digital process first, then inform group members of how they can stay spiritually connected with the group.

Establish frequent contact with the group through the digital platform you have chosen. One contact a day should be a minimum.

Encourage your group to look for opportunities to invite unchurched or unsaved people into the ministry of your small group community.

Some suggested links

Zoom Video Conferencing – www.zoom.us

GroupMe App – Available in app stores on iPhone and Android

Video Bible Studies – www.oklahomabaptists.org/sunday-school or www.facebook.com/reconnectss

For Small Group members

Maintain contact with your small group leader(s). If you are unable to leave your home and need ministry assistance, let your small group leader know. Your group leader cannot minister to needs of which he or she may be unaware.

Follow the directions of your church leaders. Do NOT meet physically as a group if your church leadership has requested for its groups not to gather physically, at the church or at home.

Pray! Pray to the Lord and ask that the impact of this virus be lessened. Pray for our senior citizens and those people most at risk to the virus. Pray for our nation’s leaders to unite and for them to be open to spiritual wisdom from the Lord.

Look for opportunities to have gospel conversations with whom you come in contact.

Small Group Ministry During an Emergency

We have tremendous potential to care for the needy in our communities and also minister to the people in our small groups. I’ve got some practical suggestions of how to do both in this video I shot for the Oklahoma Baptists Facebook page.

Invitation 2-Invite to Group

One of the best and most overlooked opportunities to introduce people to Jesus is a small group. Why? Because many people need to kick the tires of Christianity. What better place to give Christianity a test drive than in a small group of believers. Instead of hearing about prayer, Bible study, fellowship, and ministry… invite a friend to actually experience it.

While you are developing a friendship with a lost person, be sure to share experiences from your small group. Share stories of what your group does and how it impacts you. Whet their appetite. When you do offer to bring them to your group, they will be more than ready to accept your offer.

As a group, there are several things you can do to make your friend feel welcome.

  • Wear nametags. Put yourself in your guest’s shoes. It is difficult to meet 5-10 (or 20) people at once and remember their names. Nametags help.
  • Never let a guest sit alone in your group. Always make sure that a guest has people sitting around them and talking with them
  • Sometimes it is easier to invite a guest to a group fellowship (Baptist party) for their first interaction with the group.
  • Have a spare Bible or two available during group meetings.
  • Never call on a guest to pray or read.
  • Plan special group meetings that are conducive to guests.

It is important that the group still pray and study the Bible when guests are present. Guests will not be offended. If you invited a guest to play golf, imagine their surprise if you never left the putting green. Same would be true if you invited a guest to go fishing, but you did not take any bait or fishing rods. Guests expect the group to pray and study God’s Word together.

Go on. Invite friends to your small group. It will be a great experience for your friend, for you, and for your group.

 

Invitation 1 – Hospitality

Sometime when you get a chance, compare the pictures of a house from 50 years ago to a house today. You will probably notice one big architectural difference – houses from 50 years ago had a large front porch. Houses today… not so much.

We live in an era today where social media has redefined the term friend. What we usually call a friend today would have been an acquaintance 50 years ago. In fact, many of our friends on social media are people we have never met.

The Bible uses the term hospitality. Christ-followers are expected to show hospitality, even to strangers (Heb 13:2, Romans 12:13, 1 Tim 5:10, 1 Peter 4:9. When Matthew meets Jesus, he invites Jesus to his home where the Scripture says that Jesus dined with “many tax collectors and sinners.” Matthew threw a party and invited his friends to meet Jesus (Matthew 9:9). When Jesus meets Zacceus, where do they go? Jesus goes home with Zaccheus for dinner! (Luke 19:1-8)

Hospitality paves the way for a more robust dialogue about Jesus Christ. As you focus on your 1, one of the best things you can do is invite him or her into your home for a meal. Too many times we try to press our friends to receive Christ before we have established a relationship with them.

For many churches, evangelism training means equipping church members with a gospel presentation. Even after being equipped, many believers still do not share the gospel because they have not developed relationships with the lost. Consider flipping your evangelism training by equipping church members how to make friends and engage them through relationship rather than presentation.