Archive for prayer in groups

Making prayer a priority

How many times have you heard or maybe even said, “There is nothing else to do but pray.” In reality, shouldn’t it be the first thing we do?

A couple of days ago, I was putting some new books on my shelf. I turned my back for a second, and the books started falling like dominos. That’s when I realized I had forgotten to put the bookend back.

How often do you do the same thing in your life? You treat prayer like a forgotten bookend by beginning or ending with prayer but find you are way too distracted to spend quality time with God talking and listening.

When I went through cancer, I learned that one of the most humbling things is having to depend on others. But as children of God, we are totally dependent on Him for our justification, sanctification, glorification, and every single breath we take.

The Apostle Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 5:17-18, “Pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

When we spend little time with God, we are implying, “I can handle things.” When we talk to God in the name of our Lord, the door to the throne of God is opened up. 

When you pray, your conversation with God should be filled with passion both for Him and for:

  • Those in our groups
  • Those who are lost
  • Our family and friends
  • God to show us how we can move from isolation to innovation in a pandemic environment 
  • God to reveal ways we can serve those who have needs

Never stop praying. We should always delight in spending time conversing with our Father.

Take time to teach those in your Sunday School class or group how to pray as part of your discipleship.

Written by Rick Hughes, Groups Sr. Consultant/Coach, North Carolina Baptist Convention

Training Care Leaders

Since the goal of Care Teams is to help others grow through serving, the best way to make sure that happens is to train the Care Leaders. As mentioned in “It Begins With Prayer” by Dwayne McCrary, even making simple phone calls requires some training.

We always want volunteers to have a good experience serving, which is why it’s always a good idea to provide a clear ministry description and training. Here are some things to consider including in your training:

  • Talk about the importance of confidentiality. When people share prayer needs or family concerns this information should always be considered confidential unless they have been given permission to share it.
  • The length of the call. There is no hard-set rule for this, but always be considerate of other people’s time. I’ve found that people appreciate it when you ask them at the beginning of the call if they have a few minutes to talk.
  • Listen to discover needs. The purpose of your call is to provide care, and there may be a specific need that you can’t help them with but someone else can. Again, before sharing any information about the person always ask permission.
  • Remember to pray for them before you get off the call. One of the greatest ways to say we care is to lift their concerns up to God in prayer. Take time and pray for them on the call, this is the best way to be sure that you won’t forget. 

These are just a few of things to consider for your training, as you develop the ministry description consider what skills are needed and look for ways to help your Care Leaders develop them.

Written by David Ludwig, Associate Director of Healthy Churches, Baptist Resource Network of Pennsylvania and South Jersey

What is Meaningful Community?

Sometimes a question makes you stop and think. The one posed on page 23 of It Begins with Prayer has that affect on me. The author asks, “What is meaningful community?”

How would you respond to that question? Rather than defining it, the author illustrated it with a story. He described in detail a group of high school friends, current friends and coworkers, and others whom he recruited to be prayer warriors for him and with him. Each person in this group has committed to pray one day a month for Dwayne, the author of the book.

As you can imagine, the prayers and prayer requests vary from day to day. Some of the prayers are work related. Others are of a more personal nature. The common denominator, though, is that you have two people praying for one another on a regular basis.

Over time, the prayer requests have created a special bond between the two people praying. Relationships have taken on deeper meanings for both participants. The author said, “We become bound to each other as we approach the Father on behalf of another. We are going to Him together” (p.24).

A healthy codependency develops when two people pray for each other. Lives are shared. Needs are presented. God is approached. The two people learn to depend upon one another, and upon God. A healthy codependency developes.

This is true community. And it begins with prayer. Strong bonds develop between people who may not be in proximity to one another. Prayer partners can be across town, out of state, or somewhere else in the world. It really doesn’t matter – location is a moot point. What matters is that two people commit to pray for one another regularly. Over time, real community develops. Is this a shared experience? Of course! But this shared experience goes deeper than other kinds of shared experiences.

Reaching Begins with Prayer

My dad owns a farm in northwest Louisiana. During the season when calves are being born, he will walk onto his porch at night with a rifle and a spotlight to keep coyotes away. He knows that many times the cow will seclude herself and birth the calf. Even though they choose seclusion, they need the group!

Like the farmer, you as a Sunday School leader have the privilege of praying and caring for group members and reaching new ones. Consistent prayer is a powerful tool! Yet, prayer remains the most undervalued treasure in the Christian life.

Wait, what!?

Prayer is NOT reserved for a special few but is to be practiced by all believers. The truth is that a believer learns this best in connection with a group of believers, like a Sunday School class. This vital relationship will provide at least three essentials for the believer:

  • Protection from predators
  • A foundation from which to flourish
  • Relationships that foster revival

A sheep is the most commonly used metaphor to describe a Christian in the New Testament. In Luke 15 we learn three valuable principles when guiding sheep to spiritual maturity.

First, sheep need one another to survive. I learned decades ago on my dad’s farm that predators rarely go after the herd, they prey on the isolated farm animal. Sunday school leaders must guide their members to regularly seek how to minister to participants within their group, welcome the wanderers looking for a new flock, AND provide an open door for the isolated individuals who may have never been born into a flock.

Second, sheep need the flock in order to thrive. In John 10:10 Jesus tells us that He offers abundant life to all who follow Him. You see, the Christian life is not just about surviving. Jesus tells us that His goal is that we flourish from the foundation that He has provided in the local church. So what’s the deal with believers who lack peace and power? Either they are not accessing the power available to them or they have never genuinely been born into “the flock.”

Third, sheep need deep relationships that lead to revival. The natural tendency of most sheep is to wander and push boundaries. Many wake up one day separated from the flock and lacking the energy to find their way back. Leaders, we must consistently provide a place for wandering sheep to return. To be like Christ, we must be willing to leave the 99.

Friends, if we fail at anything, may it not be in our efforts to reach wandering sheep or those who have never been born into the flock! And a key ingredient for ministering within the flock and reaching those outside the flock can be found in a group of believers who fervently pray.

Written by Dr. Scott Sullivan, Discipleship Catalyst with the Georgia Baptist Mission Board

Prayerful Dependence Changes Us

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Sometimes prayer becomes something we do because we have always done it. Every week in our Sunday School class, we did the same thing – the “leader” of the class would get up and make the announcements, and then she would ask us what prayer concerns we had. And the list we would share sounded like the “wounded warriors of the faithful and family.” We really did care about people, and especially people that we knew well. Somehow the prayer support for these people just felt good! We would pray for them, and then the teacher would teach. Somehow, it just felt like the right thing to do.

Then one morning our Bible study lesson was on the Lord’s Model Prayer in Matthew 6 in the Sermon on the Mount. And we engaged in a discussion about what does it really mean to pray to our Father in heaven. We talked about the privilege we have to come to our Father and how we were taking it for granted each Sunday when we gathered. We looked at prayers of Bible characters and saw that when they prayed they really expected something to happen in their lives and other lives as well. God convicted us right then and there our lives were not being changed and our Bible study group was not been transformed because we were taking prayer so lightly.

So we changed our practice.

Here are some of the things we did:

  • We began our class with prayer, but with a prayer for enlightenment and conviction as we studied God’s Word. We asked God to open our eyes to His truth for us.
  • We enlisted a prayer leader from our class who was responsible for keeping prayer needs before us. In fact, the prayer leaders for our class were a couple. And they made prayer reminders for us each week of people and situations for which we needed to pray!
  • A prayer chart was begun which had two columns – one column was the prayer need and second column was the prayer answer. So each time God answered our prayer, we claimed the answer and gave Him glory and honor.
  • Every Sunday at the beginning of the class, a list was passed around by our prayer leader that asked us to place anything on that list we wanted to mention as a prayer request. Each Sunday, at the end of the class, we would get a copy of each those requests. Our prayer leader was very resourceful. She would make a copy in the church office and hand it to each of us. Then we would pray over that list and carry it home to use as for our personal prayer time.
  • We were challenged to have a personal prayer list with three columns – People in our Class, People in our Church Family, and People far from God.
  • Annually, we held a 3 hour prayer retreat at someone’s home just to listen to the heart of God. Many things came from those prayer times – the need and starting of a new group, the calling of a new outreach leader and care group leaders, a broken family brought back together, and the list goes on.
    Somehow we found that when we took prayer as our special communication with the Father, we changed. Bible study sessions became transformational. Our class grew. People came to know the Lord. People were called into service in other Bible study groups.

And just think – all that happened just because we decided to take prayer seriously! Prayer changes things, but more importantly, prayer changes us!

Prayer – Thank you, Lord, for the privilege of prayer. Help us to take communication with you seriously. Change our lives as we listen to Your voice and follow Your direction! Break our practices of familiarity and teach us to pray with an expectation that You will transform our lives and groups.

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Ken Kessler is Team Leader for the Empowering Leaders Team of the Baptist General Association of Virginia!