Archive for prayer partners

So What About Prayer Partners in Kids Ministry?

When asking adults to serve in kids ministry on Sunday mornings, the most common reason I’ve been given for not serving is that they don’t want to miss out on the personal connections with other adult class members. My initial response was to assure them that they would still be included in their adult class fellowships. Surprisingly, people often responded that the thing they would miss most from their adult class was the prayer time.

I’ve seen adult classes successfully bridge that gap in one or more of the following ways:

  • Create a Missionary Prayer Board. Each adult class posts pictures of those who would be a part of the group if they weren’t serving in preschool or children’s ministry. Adult class members agree to pray for a specific leader pictured on the board, committing to make regular contact with the leader, asking for specific prayer needs. Those could be personal prayer needs or needs specific to the children in their class and their families.
  • Provide a list of prayer needs. A prayer coordinator from the adult class records weekly prayer requests from adult class members and shares the list with those serving outside the class. This approach allows for a mutual partnership where the preschool/children’s leaders commit to pray for the adult Bible Study members.
  • Send monthly prayer cards. Members of the adult class sign prayer cards that are sent monthly to members in service.

As preschool and children’s leaders experience the joy of partnering with others in prayer, they can begin to teach out of the overflow by encouraging parents of the kids in their class to become prayer partners with their children. Leaders can offer simple ideas to parents of how they can begin to make prayer a regular part of each day. Parents can then progress to asking the child if there is anything specific they would like for them to pray about.  With this kind of partnership, preschool and children’s teachers are helping parents to be the spiritual leaders that God has called them to be.

Written by Vicki Hulsey, Childhood Education Specialist, Tennessee Baptist Mission Board

Forming Prayers Partners and Teams

This series has has shown that prayer is not optional for our groups. Prayer partners and teams are essential ways to display the power of prayer in individual lives, in the group, and in our world.

There are many questions that need to be answered before launching prayer partners. These include the following and so many more: Are partners two or more people? When will partnership start and end? On what will they focus their praying? How frequently will they pray and in what venue.

In the book, It Begins with Prayer, after Dwayne McCrary asks how to partner up people in the group, he asks these 7 critical questions:

Are we asking them to pray with each other weekly or monthly? How will they decide on what day they will pray? Are we expecting them to meet face-to-face, by phone, by texting, or by some other means? How will we help them understand the need for building trust and keeping things confidential as much as possible? How will we explain the value of praying with a partner within the group? How do we deal with those who decide not to participate? What is the duration of the partnership—a year, six months, until Jesus comes back?

p. 26, It Begins with Prayer, by Dwayne McCrary

Prayer Partners

Your experience may differ from mine, and that’s fine. I have seen great benefits from prayer partners including only two people of the same gender who meet twice weekly: (1) by phone at a scheduled time and (2) during group time for 2-5 minutes. After checking on each other, they should check on (and write down) personal prayer concerns and then get down to the business of praying about those concerns and any others requested by the class or church. Of course prayer will continue beyond these times.

One of the reasons why I believe two prayer partners are better than 3+ is simply that there tends to be less talking and more prayer. Prayer should be the focus. In fact, another method is simply each person praying for their own personal requests rather than sharing them. This shares the requests during prayer with the other person. Those requests will need to be written down after prayer (so they can be remembered and lifted up in prayer).

I don’t want to diminish the importance of relationships and trust during prayer. In fact, they are essential in order to be honest and open in our requests and prayer. But at the same time, prayer is the focus. Ensure that prayer receives at least half of the time together.

Prayer Teams

In my mind, prayer teams are different than prayer partners. They would meet less frequently. They would have 3-7 members who focus on one or more specifically assigned/requested topics. The duration of the teams might be shorter or the assigned/requested topics might change. These could be cottage prayer meetings monthly or bimonthly.

Why did I narrow the team to a maximum of 7 members? In my experience, it is easy for a group to allow one or more members of a group of 8+ not to talk or pray. The larger groups don’t do this intentionally, but keeping teams smaller helps this to be less likely to take place.

Which Do I Choose?

Consider the differences between partners and teams. Review the questions above. Then I want to challenge you to enlist prayer partners or teams. Then watch as prayer empowers and changes the lives of group members, the class, and those for whom they pray!

_________________________________________

Darryl Wilson serves as the Sunday School & Discipleship Consultant for the Kentucky Baptist Convention. He is the author of Disciple-Making Encounters: Revolutionary Sunday School and the Sunday School Revolutionary blog.

What is Meaningful Community?

Sometimes a question makes you stop and think. The one posed on page 23 of It Begins with Prayer has that affect on me. The author asks, “What is meaningful community?”

How would you respond to that question? Rather than defining it, the author illustrated it with a story. He described in detail a group of high school friends, current friends and coworkers, and others whom he recruited to be prayer warriors for him and with him. Each person in this group has committed to pray one day a month for Dwayne, the author of the book.

As you can imagine, the prayers and prayer requests vary from day to day. Some of the prayers are work related. Others are of a more personal nature. The common denominator, though, is that you have two people praying for one another on a regular basis.

Over time, the prayer requests have created a special bond between the two people praying. Relationships have taken on deeper meanings for both participants. The author said, “We become bound to each other as we approach the Father on behalf of another. We are going to Him together” (p.24).

A healthy codependency develops when two people pray for each other. Lives are shared. Needs are presented. God is approached. The two people learn to depend upon one another, and upon God. A healthy codependency developes.

This is true community. And it begins with prayer. Strong bonds develop between people who may not be in proximity to one another. Prayer partners can be across town, out of state, or somewhere else in the world. It really doesn’t matter – location is a moot point. What matters is that two people commit to pray for one another regularly. Over time, real community develops. Is this a shared experience? Of course! But this shared experience goes deeper than other kinds of shared experiences.

Praying for One Another

praytogetherWHY IS THIS IMPORTANT? Every believer should know that prayer is vital to the Christian life and necessary to access the mind of Christ and experience the activity of God. Without daily prayer we choose to live without being connected to God and His voice. Then the good things we do end up being done at the wrong time or the wrong reasons.

There is nothing more affirming and comforting in life than to know that friends are praying for you. Each person in your group has a private list of concerns to be lifted to God for direction, comfort and strength. Each lost person in your class needs to know Christ and the forgiveness and joy He alone can give. We need to pray for each other.

WHAT DO I DO? The most effective way to remember to pray for someone is to listen and understand their need and attach your heart to their situation.  The better you know them, the more effective your prayers can be. That’s why the group is so important to a Christian’s growth in Christ.

Help your class pray for one another by choosing to do several of these things:

  • Choose prayer partners
  • Write down prayer requests
  • Share prayer needs on your group’s Facebook page
  • Stop to pray when you remember someone’s request
  • Hand out prayer reminder cards during class
  • Spend time praying during the class session
  • As the leader, let them hear you pray for them by name.

Use your creativity to think of more ways to pray for one another.

And keep on praying.