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The Right Way to Ask a Potential Leader to Join You

NeededWHY IS THIS IMPORTANT? Too often the right people say “no” to us and to God when we enlist them. Sometimes it is our fault. How can we avoid this?

WHAT DO I DO? First, make sure you have prayed (Matthew 9:38) and observed them before asking them. When you are sure this is the one God desires to join you, then ask them this way:

  • set up a face-to-face meeting that won’t be rushed,
  • tell the potential leader you have been praying for someone to help you with ____ and why ____ is important,
  • tell the leader that God has brought him/her to your mind and as a result you began watching what God was up to in his/her life (give examples of what was observed),
  • tell the leader that because what you had observed confirmed that they were the right one, you began spending more time with them (in life and class ministry–remind them of some shared experiences),
  • tell the leader that you are convinced that he/she is the right leader to help you and the class, and
  • ask the leader to pray for up to a week about joining you in this work (set up a time to get back together for an answer).

In my experience, many good leaders will give excuses for not serving if we do not pray and give them evidence of how God is at work in them. Help leaders say “yes” to God by praying, observing, and spending time together before enlisting them.

3 Things to Observe When Enlisting a Leader to Help You

BinocularVisionWHY IS THIS IMPORTANT? Most teachers can only care well for about 5 people. Often teachers are good at one or two of the following: teaching, member care, and outreach. To care well and grow a class requires teachers to surround themselves with other leaders. But how do I find the right one?

WHAT DO I DO? First, pray and don’t rush! Then determine the greatest need you and the class have. With the specific need in mind, begin to observe these three areas:

  • Testimony. Listen. Listen to what is said about life, God, and the Word. Look for clues about what God is doing in a potential leader’s life. Is spiritual maturity expressed? What do you learn from the potential leader and others about the leader’s character?
  • Interactions. Pay attention to how the potential leader relates to others. Are good people skills used? Is care expressed? Does the leader listen well? Is there a concern for discovering and meeting needs? Are the fruit of the Spirit evident?
  • Opportunities. Do life together. Eat a meal. Go to a game. Make a visit or plan a fellowship together. Make assignments. Talk. Get to know each other. Debrief experiences to gain further insight.

Patiently pray. God will send the laborers (Matthew 9:38). Seek His leadership. Focus on one need. As you pray, observe how God is at work in the potential leader’s life through testimony, interactions, and opportunities. When you are sure of God’s choice, ask the leader to join you!

Leader Discovery Starts with Prayer

PrayerHandsWHY IS THIS IMPORTANT?

For a group to grow and be effective, a team of leaders is needed. A team provides accountability, synergy, and improved span of care (one leader for five people). Jesus modeled team, and He prayed all night before calling his disciples (Luke 6:12). We should pray too!

WHAT DO I DO?

In Matthew 9:37-38 (ESV), Jesus said: “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.” Notice your part:  pray that the Lord will send laborers. Your job is not to decide the ones He will choose. Pray.

Yes, keep your eyes and ears open after you pray. Observe what He is doing in their lives. Listen to their testimonies of His work in their lives and of their walk with Him. Keep praying.

Take the potential laborer with you. Do life together. Eat a meal. Ask for assistance with group work:  a visit, fellowship, or project. Pray together. Get to know the person better. Debrief experiences to discover awareness and insight. Keep praying.

When you are sure this person is the laborer the Lord has sent, ask him/her to come alongside of you to help you with the group. When you tell leaders you have prayed for them and observed God at work in their lives for weeks or months, they are more likely to join you. Keep praying for this leader and begin praying for another!

Live to Lead

Leadership Road Sign with dramatic clouds and sky.

I stood in front of a group of Sunday school leaders the other day and ask them the question, “When you think about leaders who influenced your life who comes to mind?” One by one they began calling off names that readily came to mind. Then I ask another question, “If I were to ask your Sunday school class the same question, would your name be one they would mention?” That question silenced the room! I then ask one more question, “Do you consider yourself a leader?”

You understand that without leaders you have no leadership. Leaders influence people to cooperate toward on the same goal, which they come to find desirable. Leaders have two important characteristics: they are going somewhere; and they are able to influence others to go with them.  You may remember this Chinese proverb that says, “He who thinks he leads when no one is following is just taking a walk.”

We know that leadership comes in various forms and styles and not everyone leads the same; however, those who lead exhibit leadership traits that set them apart from the rest of the group. You are a leader start acting like one. Learn from those God has placed in your life. Glean from the things they are doing right and even from the things they have done wrong. Leaders learn from their mistakes and grow in the midst of their circumstances. Take it all in, learn from it all and come out the other side a better leader, a better follower of Christ, and a better disciple.

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Dwayne Lee is a specialist for the Bible Teaching/Leadership Resource Group of the State Convention of Baptists in Ohio

 

Are We Damaging Sunday School by Enlisting Warm Bodies?

mentoringOn Sunday at Salem Bushy Baptist Church, the older youth Sunday School teacher resigns because he is moving out of state this week. During the Sunday School hour, the Sunday School director, Joe, brainstorms who might fill the spot. Before worship, he catches a younger deacon, Bill, to ask him to serve. Though Bill is serving on a couple of committees and as deacon, he senses how desperate Joe feels about the position and he agrees to teach for a few weeks. Joe agrees to keep looking.

The deacon teaching the class is struggling, but the previous conversation was the last time Bill talked to Joe. The deacon does not seem to be connecting with the teens. Attendance has become irregular and even declines. All the “new” youth teacher knows to do is teach. He neglects fellowship, ministry, and outreach.

What is wrong with this scenario? Sadly this situation plays out in many churches. The first area of neglect is prayer. Jesus in Matthew 9:38 called us to pray for harvesters not just take matters in our own hands:

Therefore, pray to the Lord of the harvest to send out workers into His harvest. (HCSB)

Jesus himself spent time praying overnight (Luke 6:12) before calling the Twelve:

During those days He went out to the mountain to pray and spent all night in prayer to God. (HCSB)

When we seek Him and His leadership first, we avoid making mistakes in enlistment. And we avoid missing choices that are less obvious to us personally. God knows people and the need better than we do. In a previous post, Multiply Your Leaders: Enlist, I mentioned these important steps:

  • Pray,
  • Observe,
  • Take them with you,
  • Debrief what they did, and
  • Ask them to serve.

Imagine instead of the opening enlistment scenario, this had been the case:

Joe spends time praying. God lays Bill on his heart, so Joe begins to observe Bill to see how God is at work in his life. Joe asks Bill to help him teach the youth class one week (and again a couple weeks later). Then they have lunch and debrief what happened on Sunday. A week later, Joe asks Bill to help him make a visit. After the visit on the way back to the church, they talk about how the visit went. A couple weeks later, Joe asks Bill and his wife to help prepare for and carry out the youth fellowship. As they are cleaning up after the event, Joe asks Bill how he thinks things went and how they could be even more effective later.

Joe has been praying for Bill all along. Over coffee, Joe asks Bill if he would serve on the Sunday School team as the older youth Sunday School teacher. He begins the conversation like this:

“Bill, I have been praying for the last few weeks for someone to serve on our Sunday School team as an older youth Sunday School teacher. And God laid you on my heart. So I began watching what God was doing in your life. And it seemed that God has given you favor with God and man in your service as deacon and other church duties. And several have made affirming comments about your comments and involvement in your adult Sunday School class.

“Bill, I have also asked you to help me with the youth class. When you helped me teach, the youth were very attentive in class. Your comments about the lesson and the teens afterwards at lunch were on target. Then when we made the visit and planned the fellowship, you were a big help. You really seemed to connect. It is obvious that you realize how important this position is and how much the teens need the right leader. I feel like God over these weeks has affirmed you as the one. I want to ask you to pray for a week about joining our team as the older youth teacher.”

What if instead of a warm body, you followed God’s leadership and enlisted a God-called, passionate individual? What if following His leadership, you gathered experiences and “evidence” to share with the candidate? What if you were able to anticipate his/her objections of “I am too busy” and “I am not as good of a teacher as you are” by addressing the importance of the role and review experiences from the previous weeks?

When we rush, we often make mistakes. Be patient. Be in prayer. Be persistent in pursuing those God desires to serve. Enlist and send them into the harvest.

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Darryl Wilson serves as Sunday School & Discipleship Consultant for the Kentucky Baptist Convention. He served as Minister of Education in five churches in Kentucky and South Carolina and is the author of The Sunday School Revolutionary!, a blog about life-changing Sunday School and small groups.