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Bible Study Leader Labs

In college I hated labs at the time, but I learned more from the once a week labs than I could possibly learn by reading alone.  Why not do the same for growing great Bible study leaders?

Need new teachers? Invite a group of potential teachers and start a class just for them. Model what you want your teachers to do. Many will see you do things they don’t think adults will do in a learning environment. Maybe they have never had the opportunity to be creative or to interact in any way during a Bible study session. They will typically teach the way they have been taught. Their being involved as a learner gives them much more confidence in teaching later as they can see that people typically don’t jump up and run out of class when someone asks good questions or involves learners in other ways. They also see ways to address typical teacher fears such as what to do if someone dominates a discussion, how to adapt when focal walls are not ideal, what to do when people chase rabbits, etc.

Someone is saying, well sure that will work for adult teachers; but we need preschool teachers. The answer is still the same—lab school!  As a minister of education, I found teaching in VBS in an area where we needed teachers is a great lab experience. For example, if you need teachers for the four-year olds, enlist potential teachers to serve alongside you in VBS in that age group. I found people would commit to a week especially if they were not the person in charge. Most volunteers would end the week telling me if I needed help again next year, they would love to help. Since they had a trial run in VBS, they are much more open to the Holy Spirit’s leading and usually end up serving. By the way, it also helps people discover where God is not calling them to serve. Don’t forget about mission VBS or other mission experiences that give people a chance to teach in a short-term setting alongside experienced teachers.

My husband, Steve, and I enjoy starting new classes. We found the best way to grow class leaders is to enlist a core group of leaders for any new class.  This leadership team’s first responsibility is to begin praying about whom God would have them begin training on the job. Yes—it’s lab school again. If I’m a teacher, I’m going to immediately begin growing up a teacher. If I am responsible for outreach, I’ll do the same. You get the picture. We ask the leadership team to aim for having someone else ready to step in within six months to a year. That allows the team that began the class to step out of the way and hand off the class to the people who grew up in it.

Some will say this takes too long, but it produces great leaders. In addition to the on-the-job training itself, you have the opportunity to hang out with potential leaders, pray with and for them, and process the things they are concerned about prior to taking on a ministry role.

Lab school? I’m not sure why I hated college labs in the first place.

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Belinda Jolley serves as the Director of the Adult Ministry Office of the South Carolina Baptist Convention. Belinda and her husband, Steve, enjoy starting new classes at First Baptist Church in Rock Hill, South Carolina.

When Application Hurts

I’ll never forget Sue’s declaration to the class that day. “If you knew what my ex son-in-law did to my daughter, you could not love him either!” One sympathetic lady tried to help through assuring words, “I’m sure God understands how a mother’s heart hurts when someone hurts her children.” Then another jumped in, “We understand how you feel. Some people are just mean and find joy in hurting others.” This class had just finished studying God’s Word that clearly teaches us to love one another, but now they were helping a friend justify not loving others. The verse that spurred the Sue’s outburst was in 1 John 4.

If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. 1 John 4:20 (HCSB)

The case study I used at the beginning of the session helped learners understand how they could apply this familiar teaching. Sue surely was being convicted by the Holy Spirit to rid her heart of the hatred she had for this man who hurt her daughter.  She obviously knew it was hurting her relationship with God. But when the rest of the class turned their minds toward what they felt instead of what scripture taught, something had to happen.

In a caring tone of voice I thanked her for sharing how studying God’s Word was challenging her in an obviously painful way. I added how I also understand how moms and dads hurt when their children hurt.  I honestly admitted I would prefer someone hurt me instead of anyone else in my family. After a short pause, I held up my Bible and asked everyone to look back at 1 John 4:20.  I said, “But what does scripture say about this?  Does it say you don’t have to love someone who hurts you or someone you love? Does it list exceptions or other circumstances? Let’s prayerfully read that verse again. We did.

Sue is now crying quietly.  I walked over to her, placed my hand on her shoulder and said, “Living the Christian life is hard, isn’t it. I can tell you from personal experience I don’t have all the answers to loving others either—especially when they mistreat you or those you love. Let’s use this time to think of our own situations when we found reason to justify why God would not expect us to love one another.  Let’s also use this time to surround Sue and pray specifically for this circumstance.”  I asked Sue how she wanted us to pray for her. She repeated her statement but acknowledged she knew God wanted her to love this young man. I responded, “Okay, so can we thank God for reminding you of His truth from scripture, acknowledge that today you don’t want to love this man BUT you want God to change your desires so you can come to want to love the young man?” Sue said certainly.

The class surrounded Sue and desperately prayed for her. I turned to Phil. 2:13 and quoted one of my life verses. I told Sue that verse helps me when I know what I’m supposed to do but I don’t feel like doing it then.  I claimed that promise for myself, Sue and the rest of the class.

For it is God who is working in you, [enabling you] both to will and to act for His good purpose. Phil 2:12-13 (HCSB)

That day some will think that was a failed Bible study. I think it was one of the best experiences ever because adults wrestled with what they studied when the truth was very painful.  Some think application is a learning activity that ends with the Bible study session. Regardless of the age of learners, I say application is begun during Bible study and continues for hours, days, weeks, months, and maybe years following as we wrestle with how to do what we know God wants us to do through the study of His Word.

When painful application occurs in your Bible study sessions, thank the person for sharing something so personal and painful. Acknowledge all Christians wrestle with how to live the Christian life. ALWAYS go back to scripture and focus on the truth from God’s Word. Pray with and for the person. Try to include at least some brainstorming for ways to begin trying to do what you know God wants you to do.  In Sue’s case, she could only commit to asking God to change her heart. Others in the session chose to talk to someone they really didn’t love. Some decided to start behaving like they loved someone by inviting them to an activity with friends, spending time with them trying to get to know them, etc.

God does work in us and through us to help our desires match His good and perfect will. What better place to make some of those discoveries than in life changing Bible study that includes applying scripture to life.

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Belinda Jolley serves as the Director of the Adult Ministry Office of the South Carolina Baptist Convention. Belinda and her husband, Steve, enjoy starting new classes at First Baptist Church in Rock Hill, South Carolina.

Creating a Safe Place for Life Changing Bible Study

There are many great ways to involve learners in Bible study, but unless they feel they are in a “safe” place, your efforts are likely in vain. Add to the following suggestions for creating a safe place for learners.

  • Verbalize this is a safe place. Ask the class to commit to confidentiality when appropriate.
  • Ask for volunteers or pre-enlisted persons to read or pray aloud.  If you pre-enlist someone, introduce them as someone you asked in advance to read.
  • Ask good questions—open ended questions with no right or wrong answer are the best. Verbally remind people you are not looking for a right or wrong answer. Save these questions for application discussions as opposed to biblical content discussions.
  • If asking a question with one correct answer, point them to the answer. (Look in verse 12 to find what Paul said about….)
  • As you make Bible application, consider beginning questions with “What do you think adults today think about…”  This will allow people to share what they think within the framework of a bigger, less personal audience. They will still think about what they think as individuals, but they share it as a general thought.
  • Recognize the more personal the discussion, the fewer people need to be involved. (Share in a small cluster, with the person beside you, etc.)
  • Constantly point to the Bible as authority rather than personal opinion or popular practices. (Many people say this today.  Let’s see what the Bible has to say about this matter.)
  • Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit working in people’s lives during the session. Avoid pressuring or asking people to share what is happening.  Verbalize they do not need to share but offer to pray for the person. As God leads, you may have others surround this person to pray for him or her.
  • Consider the use of a debate to air popular opinions and practices that may not align with scripture. Getting those out on the table helps the group honestly wrestle with God’s Word.
  • Recognize people will not be transparent if you are not. Avoid sharing personal experiences every week, but you do need to share how you wrestle with living the Christian life.
  • Understand some discussions may need to take place at another time and place or with other people. (Many men wrestle with that same issue…one or two of our men will continue that discussion with you later…Let’s talk after class.)
  • Avoid “taking sides” in a discussion—always redirect to what scripture says. (It is obvious this is an important topic. Let’s see what the Bible says about this.)
  • Affirm and thank people for sharing something very personal, difficult, or painful.
  • Provide learning activities that allow for reflection, especially in private matters. (Suggest learning write in their learner guides, write on an index card, etc.
  • Allow for some discussions to take place within same sex groups, with persons other than one’s spouse or other family members, etc. as appropriate.
  • Experience the Bible truths for yourself as a teacher. You will be more open to the Holy Spirit’s showing you what to focus on, which key verses to dig into, which verses to overview, etc.
  • Recognize many struggles will not be resolved during the Bible study session—they will begin there. Affirm people who at least recognize something in their life that is not in line with God’s Word. Affirm that as a valid starting point. Remind the group all believers struggle with living the Christian life. Claim Phil 2:13 as a promise that God can change our desires to match His if we want Him to do so.
  • Be prepared to tactfully address comments that may appear judgmental or insensitive—even if spoken in jest. (I know what’s going to happen when your wife gets you home, etc.) Routinely remind the class this is a safe place. If “class clowns” continue to try to make something funny out of serious matters, talk with them privately.
  • Avoid using prayer requests as a time to share “spiritual gossip”. Lovingly confront those who do so in private.

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Belinda Jolley serves as the Director of the Adult Ministry Office of the South Carolina Baptist Convention. Belinda and her husband, Steve, enjoy starting new classes at First Baptist Church in Rock Hill, South Carolina.

Thanks Giving

In a season focused on giving thanks, I can’t help but recall the many conversations with Sunday School leaders that end up focusing on thanking leaders for their service. Those conversations sometimes begin with the words, “Can you help me?  I’m the new Sunday School director in my church.  I’m not sure what I’m supposed to be doing. “

The best advice I was given and that I now give is to talk with each of your leaders.  Get to know them and ask three questions.

  1. Tell me how your ministry through Sunday School is going.  You might think you would hear lots of complaints here.  You’ll hear great life change stories and discover ways you can pray for others more specifically. You may also discover ministry needs or concerns to share with other age group leaders.  You may learn of needs for new classes and leaders.
  2. Do you have everything you need?  I guessed wrong here most of the time on this one. One might think people ask for expensive resources. Many times the things leaders need do not cost money. Perhaps they just need help working out shared space issues or need help looking down the road to know how to deal with growing more leaders now for expected future growth. Maybe they just need to rearrange the room and are not sure they have “permission” to do so. Once in a while a leader asks if someone can discard inappropriate items. Often times they just need to know someone other than God cares about what they do.
  3. How can I pray more specifically for you and your ministry? Be prepared many people will tell you no one has asked them that question before. Something happens when you pray with and for your leaders. Write down their prayer concerns and pray for them. Write them notes or call them later reminding them of how you prayed. Be sure to pray with them in person, too.

Read Eph. 1:15-19 as you give thanks and pray for spiritual insight for you and your leaders.

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Belinda Jolley serves as the Director of the Adult Ministry Office of the South Carolina Baptist Convention. Belinda and her husband, Steve, enjoy starting new classes at First Baptist Church in Rock Hill, South Carolina.

Are You Reproducing or Hoarding Leaders?

Several years ago an older lady died having lived each day pinching pennies to insure she was able to buy food, medicine, and pay her other bills. When she died, loved ones discovered she had hidden tens of thousands of dollars throughout her meager home. 

Before you consider placing judgment on this lady’s choice to hoard her resources, recognize leaders are either reproducing or hoarding leaders.  You can likely identify whether you or those around you are a reproducing or a hoarding leader.  Think about the following comparisons and add your own to the list.

Hoarding leaders might think about or say some of the following:

  • How can we keep them from splitting our class?
  • I wish we could go back to the time when we knew everybody in our church.
  • How can we get the church to meet our needs?
  • I’m not sure why John Doe is teaching a class here.  He’s only been a member here for five years.
  • I know they need preschool teachers, but we really need some good members in our class. 
  • We painted our class and bought new chair cushions. Why can’t the children use another room?
  • Why should we go to the women’s shelter?  They aren’t going to come to church here.
  • We have not had a new member in 10 years, but that’s okay. We really love each other.
  • People know where we are if they want to come and join our class.
  • Everything keeps changing.  I wish we could just leave things alone so people know what to expect.
  • I can’t get people to do anything anymore. I guess I’ll have to do it if no one else will.
  • It is easier for me to do this than to try to get someone else to do it.  After all, I can do it better.

Reproducing leaders might think about or say some of the following:

  • When do we get to start a new class?
  • Help me pray about who God wants to help teach the three year olds.
  • Isn’t it great to get to know Fred and Barbara?  We would not have met them if we had not helped start the new class six months ago.
  • Your class is like a rocket ship—constantly sending out great leaders. Help me think of some ways to celebrate those members your class has sent out to serve in the other age groups.
  • Did you notice how Michael handled problems that arose when our class helped remove yard debris  and replaced the roof damaged from the storm?
  • How do you think we can encourage our classes to serve in the community more?
  • Tell me how things are going as you lead your class leaders?
  • Do you have everything you need?
  • How can I pray more specifically for you and your class?
  • If you find this time meaningful, what do you think you could do with your class leaders?
  • Let’s pray about who else might share your burden for the people who cannot attend Bible study on  Sunday morning. Why don’t we both enlist two prayer partners to help us pray about what God wants  us to do and who He wants us to invite into this process? Can we talk again next Thursday?

Jesus is the best model of a reproducing leader. He taught multitudes, discipled twelve, but he mentored three men. He spent time growing and sending out leaders. Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, reminded Moses of the need to grow and send out other leaders. (Ex. 18) What about you? Are you reproducing or hoarding leaders?

“And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, commit to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.”2 Tim 2:2 (HCSB)