Author Archive for Bobby Howard

Connecting Service and Prayer

Over the years, I’ve heard countless believers who have served “on mission” make statements like this: “I went into this experience planning to give to others, but I received so much more from this experienced than I could ever have given.”  In my ministry, this has pertained to students serving meals at a homeless shelter or at a day camp on an international mission trip, adults doing various local work projects, medical professionals involved in a medical mission experience, and even people serving in weekly church ministry roles.

A foundational presupposition for many of us is that Bible teaching, reaching the lost, and serving in various ministry roles are keys to a healthy Sunday School or Small Group Ministry.  In It Begins With Prayer, Dwayne McCrary highlights some advantages to countering a consumerism mentality when encouraging people to be involved and serving in a group ministry.  The idea is to avoid inviting people to be a part of the group in order to be loved and ministered to and instead invite them to be a part of a group where they can serve and make a difference for the sake of the Kingdom of God.  

So, what is the connection between serving and prayer?  There are at least two important connections.  One involves motives and the other involves wisdom and discernment to discover the most effective ways to serve the Lord and use one’s spiritual gifts.  

In terms of motives for serving, McCrary clarifies how motive can be determined by asking if the only reason we are serving is in order to get something in return which he says will “reveal our motives and who we really love . . . . ourselves .”  It is in the context of prayer that we can seek God’s will and ask Him to reveal the motives of our heart so we can assure we are serving in a Christlike manner.  A memorable quote from McCrary is, “When we invest in others with the intent of helping them become all God wants them to be, then we become all God wants us to be.”  Prayerfulness about motives for serving is vital.

Another consideration is that many believers busy themselves with too many things, often even “good” things, at the expense of God’s best for us in terms of using our unique giftedness for ministry service.  In fervent and faithful prayer, God can grant wisdom and discernment to help us make decisions about opportunities for serving in various capacities. To haphazardly make choices about serving in regular roles in a church or missions context can essentially lead to ineffectiveness, burnout, and frustration.  Who would not want to be serving in a way that places us in the center of the Lord’s will?  Assuming no one would want this, it’s easy to see how prayer, as a key spiritual discipline for a believer, is a vital aspect of determining the scope of ministry service. Leaders in our Sunday School and Small Group ministries can strengthen the health of the group by modeling and advocating for prayer as a key part of serving others.

Written by Bobby Howard, Church Strengthening – Generations: Adult, South Carolina Baptist Convention

A D-Group Covenant

Holy Bible on a wooden desk in church

Is a formal D-Group Covenant really necessary? This question can stir some spirited debate. In many cases, however, when leaders evaluate the reasons a D-Group has failed, issues go back to things that could have been covered in some type of written or verbal covenant between the members of the group. Whether there is a formally signed covenant or simply a conversation about making a verbal covenant with one another, a D-Group Covenant can help build a foundation for a true disciple-making small group experience. Essential elements for a covenant can be summarized in three categories: goals of the group, expectations concerning commitment level, confidentiality.

Goals of the Group
The purpose of the D-Group sets the stage for everything that happens in the context of the group. It is vitally important that individuals in a group understand the purpose or goals of the group. For example, if a primary goal of a church is to use a D-Group structure to multiply disciples, then letting participants know from the outset that a goal is for them to be a leader of a group in the future will help them prepare for this next step. Communicating a clear purpose in a written or verbal covenant will also keep a group focused on a path toward discipleship and will help avoid wandering in wilderness of proverbial “rabbit-chasing” or becoming a social gathering with no spiritual growth among the participants.

Expectations of Commitment Level
The success of a D-Group is in part based on active and consistent participation by the members of the group. A covenant should outline expectations for the group member’s commitment. There may be time expectations that let members know how much time they need to commit for the regular meetings. If the plan is to meet weekly for one hour, then the members need to know this and the leader must honor this commitment and the time of the members by managing time well during the meetings. People are often reluctant to sign up for indefinite involvement in a group in terms of how many weeks/months the group will meet. If the intent is to meet for one year, specifically outline the start and end dates in a D-Group Covenant. Expectations in terms of the work load could also be clearly communicated in a verbal or written covenant. If participants are asked to do certain things in advance so that group meetings are meaningful times of spiritual growth then these tasks should be outlined in the covenant. The tasks may include Scripture reading, journaling, reading other books/resources, sharing a testimony with someone, Scripture memory, and more. D-Group leaders can facilitate a successful group by communicating the expectations in a covenant.

Confidentiality
When a group is meeting together, learning together, sharing stories of personal growth or possibly some personal struggles, and praying together, it is important for participants to commit to confidentiality. The group will remain superficial and deeper authentic relationships will not develop among the participants if they are fearful that information they share may become public knowledge. Hold individuals accountable to this commitment more consistently by including it as a clear expectation in a verbal or written D-Group Covenant.

There are many variables that may create an environment for a thriving D-Group Ministry. A written and/or verbal covenant is one that should considered.