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Connect through others: Share with your one

Is your church eating itself?

Author and management consultant Peter Drucker once said, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast.”

As a pastor, you experience it when you step on the platform and attempt to motivate your congregation. You see heads nod in agreement and even hear a few say “Amen!” But then enthusiasm fizzles out in a short time.

“Who’s your One?” may be the most significant initiative Southern Baptists have ever undertaken. What would it look like if you utilized a strategy that got your groups on and off campus involved in “Who’s your One?” as a group strategy?

Mark Clifton of the North American Mission Board says, “If you want your church to become a congregation that makes disciples that make disciples, you have to get your people into discipling relationships with one another.”

It’s more efficient and effective to teach evangelistic tools like the “3 Circles” in a group setting. It’s even more important to teach not only what the gospel is but what the gospel does. The gospel restores our relationship with God, our relationships with others and our relationship to ourselves. Relationships are important — not only to those inside the church but to those outside as well.

Groups decentralize your church. In group life people are more focused on “being” the church in everyday life rather than “doing” church. People outside of the church are not looking for religion. They are looking for relationships.

In an article for Lifeway’s Facts & Trends, Alex Himaya wrote:

“Starting with love and relationship rather than religion doesn’t change my beliefs; it changes how I communicate my beliefs. Everyday I’m trying to mimic the same manner that Jesus used when he talked to people. When he encountered the woman at the well (John 4) he didn’t start with her multiple marriages and adulterous lifestyle. He started with a simple request that began a relationship, ‘Can I have a drink of water?’

Why is this important? The Bible says so.

Scripture teaches us to be disciples and to live and share the gospel. A new strategy is to use your groups to create action for “Who’s Your One?” initiative in your church. Here are a few ideas:

  • Train your group leaders and teachers in the “3 Circles.” Teach them what the gospel is and what it does.
  • Have every member of your group identify one person they know. Encourage them to love and build an authentic relationship with that person.
  • Invite those individuals to the group and group functions so they can experience relationships instead of religion.
  • Have gospel conversations with the new people you have established trust with.
  • Fight for them and not against them.

John O’Brien, co-author of The Power of Purpose offers an additional insight into Drucker’s famous quote about culture eating strategy for breakfast. O’Brien writes, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast, but culture gets its appetite from purpose.”

Going beyond an understanding of what the gospel is to what the gospel does will significantly impact your congregation and those with whom they share the gospel.

Invitation 1 – Hospitality

Sometime when you get a chance, compare the pictures of a house from 50 years ago to a house today. You will probably notice one big architectural difference – houses from 50 years ago had a large front porch. Houses today… not so much.

We live in an era today where social media has redefined the term friend. What we usually call a friend today would have been an acquaintance 50 years ago. In fact, many of our friends on social media are people we have never met.

The Bible uses the term hospitality. Christ-followers are expected to show hospitality, even to strangers (Heb 13:2, Romans 12:13, 1 Tim 5:10, 1 Peter 4:9. When Matthew meets Jesus, he invites Jesus to his home where the Scripture says that Jesus dined with “many tax collectors and sinners.” Matthew threw a party and invited his friends to meet Jesus (Matthew 9:9). When Jesus meets Zacceus, where do they go? Jesus goes home with Zaccheus for dinner! (Luke 19:1-8)

Hospitality paves the way for a more robust dialogue about Jesus Christ. As you focus on your 1, one of the best things you can do is invite him or her into your home for a meal. Too many times we try to press our friends to receive Christ before we have established a relationship with them.

For many churches, evangelism training means equipping church members with a gospel presentation. Even after being equipped, many believers still do not share the gospel because they have not developed relationships with the lost. Consider flipping your evangelism training by equipping church members how to make friends and engage them through relationship rather than presentation.

Intentionality 3: It is our opportunity

Who’s Your One?

Intentionality –Look for opportunities to have spiritual conversations with your one.

It is Your Opportunity!

Think about it, the greatest miracle of all is when someone gives their life to Christ and they are forever, radically changed. And you get to be a part of that.

In Acts 1:8, God calls us a witness. The same life-changing gospel that has made us a child of God, we can share with others. It’s like having a horrible disease and we are given a cure. Wouldn’t you want to give others the life-altering cure that you have received?

Matthew 28:19 describes the Great Commission; to make disciples. The original language describes this as an imperative. We are commanded to go and make disciples. Not only do others benefit from our “going”, but we benefit as well. We see the work of God.

In John 4:1-42 we have the story of Jesus and the Samaritan Woman. Jews normally did not travel through Samaria. So, then why in verse 4 does the scripture say that Jesus, “Had to travel through Samaria”? Jesus was “sent” to Samaria, to a certain well, to encounter a certain woman who travelled to the well in the middle of the day. That encounter not only changed the Samaritan woman’s life, but the lives of many in her village that day.

Jesus exemplifies for us the opportunity that God has provided to you and me. We were sinners, destined to spend eternity separated from God in a real place called Hell. But by the Grace of God, Jesus sent someone into our lives to share with us the wonderful gift of salvation. Because of that, our lives and our world was changed. We were blessed to receive this precious gift. But those who shared with us also received a blessing from God.

Pray and ask that God will provide a divine encounter for you and your one. Don’t waste an opportunity to experience a life altering, life changing encounter with God.

Pray, and then just do it!

Investments 2: Listen to Your One

Why is it so important to be a good listener? Because lost people are searching for answers and they are waiting for their chance to ask questions.

Many unbelievers are curious about the Bible and what it means to have a relationship with Jesus, so they need to have an environment where they can ask questions.

If you are in a class/group always allow time for questions and practice being a good listener. Listening is a skill that some people are better than others at but everyone can develop if they are willing to practice. Listening shows that you care about what they have to say.

When your sharing your faith with an unbeliever, think about these three things as you listen.

Listen to hear their questions. Listen to hear what they are asking, if they are not sure how to ask about something you may need to listen for key words and then ask them a question to get clarity. Something like; “I think I hear you saying this… is that what you are asking about?”

Listen to hear where the Spirit is moving. When a person is being led by the Spirit to ask a certain question these promptings are important times, so you will want to be listening for what it is they are trying to say. If you are not sure, ask a clarifying question.

Listen for opportunities to share the gospel. The longer you know a person the more opportunities you might have, but you will always want to be listening for the right time and opportunity to share the gospel with them.

In a world that is filled with noise, make sure you take time to listen to Your One!

David Ludwig is the associate director of healthy churches with the Baptist Resource Network of Pennsylvania/ South Jersey and serves Pastors and churches to assist them in becoming healthy, multiplying churches.

 

 

 

 

Who’s Your One: Invest

Once you’ve identified your one, it is crucial that you find time to build the relationship with them. Your one is worth your investment of time, money, and emotions.

Occasionally, I decide to look at my retirement account.  My hope is that the account has grown, but I must take the long look.  Some weeks, the account is down and some weeks the account is up.  I keep investing…why because over time I trust that the account will grow, and I will be able to retire with dignity.

Investing in your one will be similar. Don’t give up, keep investing in your one.  Lance Crowell, Discipleship Leader for the Southern Baptists of Texas recommends three key things that you can do to develop your relationship:

  • Find common interests and spend regular time with them – What do they like to do? What can you enjoy together?
  • Listen more than you talk – Ask good questions and focus on developing a deeper relationship.
  • Be willing to be the 2:00 am call – Develop the friendship so that you stand ready and available in a time of need or crisis.

Many of my Sunday School class members are avid hunters (not me).  One Sunday, a new family was sitting behind us in worship.  The man and one of my members begin talking and both were avid hunters. That afternoon, over 20 years ago, he took him hunting and they are some of our best friends today and leaders in my church.  Ask questions, listen for those common interests, connect with your one.  Over time, your investment will grow and you will have the opportunity to share with him about Jesus.

As you invest, remember your one is not a project, but a person who needs Jesus.