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Connect through others: Share with your one

Is your church eating itself?

Author and management consultant Peter Drucker once said, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast.”

As a pastor, you experience it when you step on the platform and attempt to motivate your congregation. You see heads nod in agreement and even hear a few say “Amen!” But then enthusiasm fizzles out in a short time.

“Who’s your One?” may be the most significant initiative Southern Baptists have ever undertaken. What would it look like if you utilized a strategy that got your groups on and off campus involved in “Who’s your One?” as a group strategy?

Mark Clifton of the North American Mission Board says, “If you want your church to become a congregation that makes disciples that make disciples, you have to get your people into discipling relationships with one another.”

It’s more efficient and effective to teach evangelistic tools like the “3 Circles” in a group setting. It’s even more important to teach not only what the gospel is but what the gospel does. The gospel restores our relationship with God, our relationships with others and our relationship to ourselves. Relationships are important — not only to those inside the church but to those outside as well.

Groups decentralize your church. In group life people are more focused on “being” the church in everyday life rather than “doing” church. People outside of the church are not looking for religion. They are looking for relationships.

In an article for Lifeway’s Facts & Trends, Alex Himaya wrote:

“Starting with love and relationship rather than religion doesn’t change my beliefs; it changes how I communicate my beliefs. Everyday I’m trying to mimic the same manner that Jesus used when he talked to people. When he encountered the woman at the well (John 4) he didn’t start with her multiple marriages and adulterous lifestyle. He started with a simple request that began a relationship, ‘Can I have a drink of water?’

Why is this important? The Bible says so.

Scripture teaches us to be disciples and to live and share the gospel. A new strategy is to use your groups to create action for “Who’s Your One?” initiative in your church. Here are a few ideas:

  • Train your group leaders and teachers in the “3 Circles.” Teach them what the gospel is and what it does.
  • Have every member of your group identify one person they know. Encourage them to love and build an authentic relationship with that person.
  • Invite those individuals to the group and group functions so they can experience relationships instead of religion.
  • Have gospel conversations with the new people you have established trust with.
  • Fight for them and not against them.

John O’Brien, co-author of The Power of Purpose offers an additional insight into Drucker’s famous quote about culture eating strategy for breakfast. O’Brien writes, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast, but culture gets its appetite from purpose.”

Going beyond an understanding of what the gospel is to what the gospel does will significantly impact your congregation and those with whom they share the gospel.

Connect through Others: Intercede for Your One

If a new Christian’s only way to learn about prayer was by sitting in your Sunday School class or small group, would they learn how important it is to pray for a lost family member or friend (their “One”)?

If your group experience is like some I’ve had, a baby Christian might learn that prayer is only for physical needs. To be specific, “Aunt Jane’s third cousin’s former classmate’s mother’s cat who may need to have an appendectomy the fifth of next month. Pending the outcome of tests. If they can get an appointment.” Okay, maybe that’s an extreme fictitious example (maybe…), but it seems some groups pray for everything except the spiritual needs of people.

How do we encourage group members to pray regularly for their “Ones”? Here are some ideas to consider for your next gathering:

  • Explain that today you will have two group prayer times, the first for friends and family who have physical needs and the second to pray for the spiritual needs of “Your One.”
  • God often uses physical healing to initiate spiritual healing. When group members request prayer for family and friends’ physical needs, ask them to include any spiritual needs that person may also have.
  • Invite a new Christian to share their story of coming to Christ, including how the prayers of others were important in the process.
  • When you are teaching from a passage on how the gospel spreads, invite a group member to tell about their “One.” Pause to pray for opportunities and receptivity in their relationship. (This one would be great to use regularly.)

Often what we do in our groups teaches more vividly than what we say. What is your group teaching about praying for those who need Jesus?

Investments 2: Listen to Your One

Why is it so important to be a good listener? Because lost people are searching for answers and they are waiting for their chance to ask questions.

Many unbelievers are curious about the Bible and what it means to have a relationship with Jesus, so they need to have an environment where they can ask questions.

If you are in a class/group always allow time for questions and practice being a good listener. Listening is a skill that some people are better than others at but everyone can develop if they are willing to practice. Listening shows that you care about what they have to say.

When your sharing your faith with an unbeliever, think about these three things as you listen.

Listen to hear their questions. Listen to hear what they are asking, if they are not sure how to ask about something you may need to listen for key words and then ask them a question to get clarity. Something like; “I think I hear you saying this… is that what you are asking about?”

Listen to hear where the Spirit is moving. When a person is being led by the Spirit to ask a certain question these promptings are important times, so you will want to be listening for what it is they are trying to say. If you are not sure, ask a clarifying question.

Listen for opportunities to share the gospel. The longer you know a person the more opportunities you might have, but you will always want to be listening for the right time and opportunity to share the gospel with them.

In a world that is filled with noise, make sure you take time to listen to Your One!

David Ludwig is the associate director of healthy churches with the Baptist Resource Network of Pennsylvania/ South Jersey and serves Pastors and churches to assist them in becoming healthy, multiplying churches.